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Step Three

Step Three

“We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.”

The surrender we experienced in step one, coupled with the hope and believe we find in step two, make us ready and willing to continue on a path toward freedom in narcotics anonymous. In step three, we put our belief in a higher power into action, making a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God of our understanding.

Essentially to work the third step is our willingness to allow the God of our understanding to work in our lives. We developed this willingness over time. The willingness we experienced in our early recovery is not able human though we may he willing only to a certain degree. Although the this may feel like unconditional willingness, many of us have discovered that our willingness group as we learn to trust a power greater than ourselves.

The decision we make in step three requires that we move away from ourselves well. Self will is composed of such characteristics as close mindedness, unwillingness, self-centeredness, and outright defiance. Our self-centered obsession and its accompanying insanity have made our lives unmanageable. Acting on her self will has kept us trapped in a continuous cycle of fear and pain. We wore ourselves out and fruitless attempts to control everyone and everything. We couldn’t just allow events to happen we were oldies on the lookout for ways we could force things to go as we wanted.

When we first look at making a decision called for in the this step, we are likely to have questions, uncertainty, and even fear about what we are being asked to do. We might wonder why we need to make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God of our understanding. Or we may wonder what what happened to us if we place ourselves in God’s care. We may fear that we won’t be happy with what our lives will be like after working the step.

When we trust that there is growth in taking action despite our fear of uncertainty, we are able to work step three. Even though we do not know how our lives will change as we work to step, we can learn to trust that our higher power will care for us better than we could. The third step is our commitment to our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.

We’ll begin in the second step as believe the Higher power can become a fuller relationship with the God of our understanding in step three the decisions that we make by working the step, and the relationship that results, will revolutionize our existence.

The decision is easier to make than to live by. We can easily lapse into old behavior: it takes determination, time, and encouraged to change. Because we’re not perfect, we simply continue to reaffirm our decision on a regular basis and then do the very best we can to live by it. Complete and unconditional surrender of our will and our lives is an ideal we strive to fulfill. Although do we don’t become perfect, we do make a profound change by work in this step. We are making a serious effort to live differently than we have in the past. From now on, we’re going to be practicing this decision, and the way we relate to the world around us can change radically as a result.

In a work in step three we begin to learn how to stop struggling. We learn to let go and trust the God of our understanding. If we take time to think and seek correction before acting, we no longer have to run on her own self will. Turning our will and our lives over to the care of our higher power provides a solution to the problems created by a life based in self will, resentment, and control.

The spiritual principles we are practicing will guide us, not just in the third step but throughout our recovery. The first three steps provide us with the solid spiritual foundation we will need to work the rest of the steps. We keep our initial surrender alive by actively practicing with the faith, and willingness required to work the third steps. In other words, we limited our powerlessness and are in ability to manage our own lives; we’ve come to believe; now we need to surrender to the care of the God of our understanding.

We may find that willingness to work the third step by remembering where we came from and believe in that where we are going is certainly to be quite different. Though we don’t know what the difference one tell, we know that it is sure to be better than what we’ve had in the past. We rely on our faith and believe that this decision is one of the best decisions we’ve ever made.

Turning our will and our lives over to the care of God of our understanding is a tremendous decision. We may very well wonder exactly how we are supposed to put this decision into practice. Because our individual believes about a power greater than ourselves very, there is no uniform way to put our decision and action. However, we have found some ways we all can use to find a personal understanding of the third step. One is to continue our efforts to develop a personal relationship with the God of our understanding. Another is to give up our efforts at controlling everything around us. We relax our grip on the burdens we’ve been carry in and turn them over to the care of our higher power. Yet another way we practice our third step decision is to continue with our recovery by work and the remainder of the steps. Our sponsor will guide us in applying the spiritual principles of recovery, Just out to shift our focus away from arts own self interest and toward a more spiritual center life.

As we get ready to make this decision, we talk with our sponsor a good to step meetings, and take the opportunity to share about it with other in a members. We gather as much knowledge, insight, and experience as we can from these resources, and then we make our own decisions. No one can do this for us; we must consciously decide to do this for ourselves. Of course, this is not a decision we make solely with our intellect. In truth, this is a choice we make with our hearts, a decision based much more in feeling and desire and in deliberate reasoning. Though the path from mind to heart seems a difficult one, formally working this step with our sponsor seems to help us make this decision a part of who we are.

The search for a guide of our understanding is one of the most important efforts we will undertake in our recovery. We have complete personal choice and freedom and how we understand our higher power. We can each find a higher power that does for us what we cannot do for ourselves. Because we are powerless over our addiction, we need a power greater than ourselves to help us.

Just as our freedom to have a God of our understanding is unlimited, so is our freedom to communicate with their ire power in whatever ways were for us. Anytime we communicate with their ire power, whether it’s simply with our thoughts or allowed at the close of the meeting, we are praying. Most of us asked our higher power for direction on a daily basis.

Our relationship with our higher power grows stronger as we practice faith. In our experience, talking to a power greater than ourselves works. When we are having trouble in a particular area of our lives or when we feel unable to stay clean, our higher power can help; we only need to ask. With our prayers, we ask a power greater than ourselves to care for us. Each time we take this action, we strengthen our faith and our decision to rely on our higher power.

Step three dozen free us from having to take action, but it does liberate us from excessive worry about the results. If we want something/a job, and education, recovery/we have to make the effort to get it. Our higher power will take care of our spiritual needs, but we need to participate in our own lives; we can’t simply sit back and expect God to do everything. We are responsible for our recovery.

Our lives are meant to be lived. No matter how sincere our efforts at turning it over, we will make mistakes, wander off course, and experienced moments of doubt. However, with each setback we are given a new opportunity to renew our commitment to live by spiritual principles. Part of the process of surrendering to God’s will is to surrender to spiritual principles such as honesty, open-mindedness, willingness, trust, and faith. We try to align our actions with what we believe are higher power would want from us, and then we deal with life as it happens.

We may hesitate to work step three in all areas of our lives, especially in matters we want to control. Our experience has been that we tend to hold onto certain areas. Perhaps we think I can control my finances just fine or my relationship is working; why do I need to turn that over to the care of my ire power? Working step three only in certain areas of our lives short circuits are spiritual development. We have found that our recovery benefits when we participate this principle of surrender, to the best of our ability, and all areas of our lives. We strive to work this step thoroughly.

We begin to see positive results from the decision we have made. We began to notice changes. While the circumstances of our lives may not change, the way we deal with those circumstances does. Because we have made the decision to allow spiritual principles to work in our lives, we may notice a sense of relief. We are being relieved of the burden we’ve carried far too long: the need to control everything and everyone. We began to react differently to the situations and people around us. As we gain acceptance, we cease to struggle against life on life terms. Striving to maintain and build on our surrender, we are better able to live and enjoy life in the moment.

For some of us, deciding to Turner will and lives over to the care of the God of our understanding is a process, not an event. However, in making that decision, we do make a commitment to practice this step in our lives. When we are tempted to manipulate the situation, we recall this decision and let go. When we catch ourselves attempting to exert control over someone or something, we stopped in instead asked living guide to help us work this step.

Relinquishing control is not easy, but we can do it with help. With guidance from our sponsor and daily practice, we are sure to find ourselves learning how to get our egos out of the way so our higher power it can work in our lives. Each time we are fearful over a situation, we can turn this step and find the means to walk through our fear without resorting to her old ways.

Recovery doesn’t exempt us from having to live through painful situations. At some points in our lives, we may have two more the death of a loved one or deal with the end of a relationship. When such things happen to us, we hurt, and no amount of spiritual awareness will take our pain away. We do find, however, that the caring presence of a loving power greater than ourselves will help us get through our pain clean. We may find that we are able to fill our higher Powers presents in the group, in our friends, or in talking to our sponsor. By tapping into that power, we begin to trust and rely on it. We can cease questioning why painful things happen and trust that walking through the difficult times in our lives can strengthen our recovery. We can grow in spite of our pain or, perhaps, in response to it.

Even long periods of abstinence do not guarantee us continued freedom form the pain and trouble that addiction can bring. The symptoms of our disease can always return. We may find that we are powerless in ways we never imagined. This is where we begin to understand how the things we tried so hard to control are, in reality, completely beyond our control. No matter how our disease displays itself, we must take its deadly nature into account. As we do, we develop a fuller awareness of the nature of our disease.

Recovery is a process of discovery. We learn about ourselves, and we learn out to cope with the world around us. When we are sincere in our desire to allow our higher power to care for us, we began to gain a sense of serenity. We notice a gradual change in our thinking. Our attitudes and ideas become more positive. Our world is no longer as distorted by self-pity, denial, and resentment. We are beginning to replace those old attitudes with honesty, faith, and responsibility; as result, we begin to see our world in a better light. Our lives are guided by our emerging integrity. Even though we make mistakes, we become more willing to take responsibility for our actions. We learned that we don’t have to be perfect to live a spiritual life. We work step three with an open mind and heart, we find the results are far beyond our expectations.

As we experience this new way of life, we began to realize that recovery is a priceless gift. We learned to trust; as we do, we open the doors to the intimacy and develop new relationships. Where once we focused only on not using, we now can appreciate the many things that make our lives so valuable. We savor the laughter and the joy we hear expressed so abundantly in our meetings. As recovery becomes more central in our lives and we internalize the principles embodied in the steps, our views of the world changed profoundly. As our awareness grows, so does our appreciation and faith in our power.

If we posit reflect honor lies at this stage of our recovery, we will see that we have experienced dramatic personal growth. The relief we experience as a result of working the first three steps is only a glimpse of our growth we can experience to work in the 12 steps.

The role of third step expands in our lives as we continue work in the other steps. Step 11 ask us to pray for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry it out. Step three begins this process; it is here that we start to see God’s will for us. Moving from self-seeking life to a life based on spiritual principles requires us to change profoundly.

With the help of a loving God, we are ready to move forward on her journey. This is a 12 step program, not a three step program. The decision we made in the third step is perhaps the most month loneliest decision will ever make in our lives, but we need to work the rest of the steps for it to remain meaningful. There is more work to do. We have found that the spiritual path set forth in the 12 steps is only the way to recover a narcotics anonymous. Putting our recovery into action, we work step four.

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